The Ultimate Catch 22
Every day I thank God for those dads that instill low self-esteem in their daughters, for without them there would be no adult entertainment industry.
After all, if there was no adult entertainment industry, where would I go to do research for my next detective novel?
And, judging by how many porn stars and topless dancers there are out there, lots of daddies must be doing a good job.
Here's how I think it works: Daughter does something to make daddy notice; daddy ignores. Daughter feels unloved, so she does more to impress daddy; daddy ignores. It's a downward spiral that continues throughout childhood as daugther unsuccessfully tries to get daddy to show her that he loves her, and when he doesn't, she begins to feel that she is not worthy of love.
Then, she hits puberty, and suddenly lots of other guys out there are interested in her ... at least what she can show them.
It prepares her perfectly for a career earning a living one dollar at a time.
And, it keeps plastic surgeons driving fancy Italian sports cars and Dow Corning producing more silicone, which is good for the economy.
But, believe it or not, there is a down side to low self-esteem as well.
For, Low Self-Esteem Woman repeats the daddy/daughter pattern in all of her love relationships: She keeps seeking out guys who won't love her, and tries to make them love her so she can prove to herself that she is lovable.
Not a problem for all those assholes out there that treat women like shit. Their futures are pretty secure as women endlessly try to get them to love them.
But, it's the ultimate Catch 22 of love for nice guys who end up getting screwed:
Faced with a choice between two guys, Low Self-Esteem Woman says to herself:
"Guy Number One won't show me love, therefore he must be worthy of my love;"
"Guy Number Two loves me, and since I am not worthy of love, and he loves me, he must not be worthy of my love."
"I'll take Guy Number One."
So, you have the setup for the perfect love triangle, especially when Guy Number Two is Low Self-Esteem Guy, who always picks the most beautiful woman in the room, and then decides he needs to get her to love him.
Especially when, in my experience, in what may be the greatest of cosmic ironies, the most beautiful woman in the room is also Low Self-Esteem Woman.
Making me just like them, as I keep seeking out women who won't love me, and trying to make them love me so I can prove to myself that I am lovable.
Damn you, self-awareness!!!
Every day I thank God for those dads that instill low self-esteem in their daughters, for without them there would be no adult entertainment industry.
After all, if there was no adult entertainment industry, where would I go to do research for my next detective novel?
And, judging by how many porn stars and topless dancers there are out there, lots of daddies must be doing a good job.
Here's how I think it works: Daughter does something to make daddy notice; daddy ignores. Daughter feels unloved, so she does more to impress daddy; daddy ignores. It's a downward spiral that continues throughout childhood as daugther unsuccessfully tries to get daddy to show her that he loves her, and when he doesn't, she begins to feel that she is not worthy of love.
Then, she hits puberty, and suddenly lots of other guys out there are interested in her ... at least what she can show them.
It prepares her perfectly for a career earning a living one dollar at a time.
And, it keeps plastic surgeons driving fancy Italian sports cars and Dow Corning producing more silicone, which is good for the economy.
But, believe it or not, there is a down side to low self-esteem as well.
For, Low Self-Esteem Woman repeats the daddy/daughter pattern in all of her love relationships: She keeps seeking out guys who won't love her, and tries to make them love her so she can prove to herself that she is lovable.
Not a problem for all those assholes out there that treat women like shit. Their futures are pretty secure as women endlessly try to get them to love them.
But, it's the ultimate Catch 22 of love for nice guys who end up getting screwed:
Faced with a choice between two guys, Low Self-Esteem Woman says to herself:
"Guy Number One won't show me love, therefore he must be worthy of my love;"
"Guy Number Two loves me, and since I am not worthy of love, and he loves me, he must not be worthy of my love."
"I'll take Guy Number One."
So, you have the setup for the perfect love triangle, especially when Guy Number Two is Low Self-Esteem Guy, who always picks the most beautiful woman in the room, and then decides he needs to get her to love him.
Especially when, in my experience, in what may be the greatest of cosmic ironies, the most beautiful woman in the room is also Low Self-Esteem Woman.
Making me just like them, as I keep seeking out women who won't love me, and trying to make them love me so I can prove to myself that I am lovable.
Damn you, self-awareness!!!
posted by James Hitchcock at 9:22 AM
2 Comments:
The whole "getting attention from dad" goes deeper me thinks. Here is the real Catch-22:
Women are first screwed up when dad touches them. Then, they get even more screwed up when he stops.
(At least, that is what my experience suggests.) That is why the biggest dirtbag wins their hearts. At least, until a bigger dirtbag comes along.
(I hearby introduce a measure to change the word "woman" in the English language to "mercenary." All in favor...?)
It seems whenever I want women around for simple, horrible and deviant sex, there is no shortage. But seriously, I am getting too old for all that bullshit, you know?
I say, "Aye!"
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