Diana was a princess ...

A new relationship book for women hit the shelves recently It's titled "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken : The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy" by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt, also the authors of "He's Just Not That in to You."

So, first the authors had to explain to women that there may just be a guy out there that doesn't see her as the perfect mate, and now, how to tell if he is trying to break up with you.

Only a woman could be so self-absorbed that she would not consider that a guy doesn't call because he doesn't dig her, or that he might actually be trying to break up with her.

After all, didn't daddy always tell her that she was his special little princess, and any guy would be lucky to have her?

I've run into this attitude more times than I can count since I began dating again after my divorce. Women see the first date as a job interview - for me. They question every aspect of my life and past. When I try to ask them questions, they brush them off, or in once case, actually told me the first date was a time for her to get to know me.

"After all, you asked me out," she said, "so you are already interested in me."

Wait a minute, she decided to go out with me without knowing if she was interested in me?

Of course she did. I saw an on-line advice column in which a writer complained she kept scaring off men by moving too quickly. By the third date, she was wondering if he was "the one." The advice columnist said she needed to relax, and look at dating not as a gateway to romance, but just a way to make new friends and have fun.

Of course dating is just a way to make new friends and have fun ... when you aren't paying.

I shell out, on average, $75 to $125 for a date including dinner and drinks. That's a really fuckin' expensive way to make new friends.

I don't know about you, but I have a two part deal with a friend: First, when we go out, we each pay our share. I might buy a round, and he might buy a round, but by the end of the night we are pretty much even. Second, we don't end up in bed together at the end of the night, no matter how much we've drank.

Any woman who lets a guy take her out, and lets him pay, with no intention of romance is being dishonest. Now, before you women jump all over me, I'm not saying you have to sleep with me just because I bought dinner. But, there really is an implied contract here. I'm buying you dinner, or taking you to a concert, because I have romantic feelings toward you.

If you have no interest in me romantically, you damn well should pay your own way.

Any woman who thinks that she is such a joy to be with that men are willing to pay just for the pleasure of her company is drastically overestimating the pleasure of her company. I have never met a woman whose company is so stimulating that I would pay just to enjoy it.

And, she is drastically underestimating the intentions of her date, unless I don't know men as well as I think I do.

And for those of you who think you just might be worth it, I'm writing a sequel to "He's Just Not That In To You." It's called, "Diana was a Princess, You're Just Another Piece of Ass."